Elizabeth Hendrick

ELIZABETH HENDRICK was born and raised in East Anglia. She graduated in mathematics from Durham University in 1994 and began a career in financial services in London. In 2004, she left finance to enter the risky world of entrepreneurial start-ups. During her first project to launch a film magazine, she developed the practice of keeping a diary of events. It was her cathartic response to dealing with the stress of heading up an underfunded start-up. Since then, she has kept records and written memoirs covering all her remarkable life experiences, including being a contestant on a reality TV show in 2007. After four fateful years as an entrepreneur, Elizabeth returned to financial services. Then in 2016, she left the corporate world altogether and moved into the education sector. Over the course of her life, she has lived and worked in London, Paris, Tokyo, and Dubai. She currently works and resides in Tokyo, and she doesn’t stop writing!

EXODAI is the first memoir Elizabeth has published. She was compelled to write about her struggles with her sexuality and narrate the story of how she eventually learnt to love herself, placing particular emphasis on her S&M relationship with a Japanese dominatrix. Elizabeth believes her story will be of value not just to LGBTQ+ and BDSM communities, but to all individuals who have been ostracised during their adolescence and whose lack of self-love is sabotaging their adult lives. It’s also an intriguing peek behind the curtain of Tokyo’s exotic and sometimes shocking BDSM underworld.


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MY LIFE OF LESBIAN LOVE, SEX, OBSESSION AND TORTURE

September 20, 2024

Have you ever experienced periods of self-loathing or even self-hatred? Are you still trying to come to terms with who you are or who you want be? Perhaps you were bullied, ostracized or abused as an adolescent and developed a negative attitude towards your self worth?

Join us with author, Elizabeth Hendrick, who wrote EXODAI, A Shockingly Honest Memoir of Love, Obsession and Torture, as she explains how and why she had a long-term submissive relationship with a Japanese Dominatrix, in which she received sadistic torture – for the benefit of love. Not for the faint-hearted, this memoir describes what she experienced there and how she found her way back.


EXODAI: A Shockingly Honest Memoir of Love, Obsession and Torture

EXODAI: A Shockingly Honest Memoir of Love, Obsession and Torture

“Brave, compelling, remarkable.” Richard Moriarty – The Sun
“Brutal, vivid, electrifying.” Chris Riches – Daily Express

 WINNER of the NATIONAL INDIE EXCELLENCE AWARDS for SEXUALITY category
 FINALIST in the NATIONAL INDIE EXCELLENCE AWARDS for LGBTQIA NON-FICTION category
 FINALIST in the INTERNATIONAL BOOK AWARDS for LGBTQ+ NON-FICTION category
 FINALIST in the READERS' FAVORITE BOOK AWARDS for NON-FICTION - LGBTQ category
 FINALIST in the NEXT GENERATION INDIE BOOK AWARDS for BEST BOOK COVER DESIGN (NON-FICTION)

"Tonight, I am going to be tortured for the woman I love …"

Elizabeth’s drives and desires have always been unusual. Beginning in early childhood, her need for love and suffering took her from the prim surroundings of a Norfolk girls’ school to the secret, latex-clad, rope-bound, whip-lashed delights of the Tokyo BDSM scene.

For Elizabeth, torture was not about sexual gratification – it was about love. In this frank and open memoir, she tells the story of a remarkable personal journey. Attracted to other girls from an early age, Elizabeth struggled to come to terms with her sexuality. As a schoolgirl, her fantasies of torture – always for the benefit of whichever girl she was in love with – were rooted in her own inability to accept herself as a lesbian or reconcile her desires with her Christian beliefs. Before finally realising that connection, Elizabeth would go through years of emotional and physical pain.

Having experimented with bondage at university, Elizabeth discovered S&M when her career as a high-flying headhunter took her to Tokyo. There she was inducted into the BDSM scene and learnt what real S&M was all about. When she fell in love with a gorgeous Japanese dominatrix called Tomo and became her slave, she began a descent into hell. Tomo proved to be an irredeemable sadist who took torture far beyond the accepted limits of S&M. Elizabeth went to the brink of destruction for Tomo. Not for the faint-hearted, this gripping memoir describes what she experienced there and how she found her way back.

TRIGGER WARNING: this book contains graphic descriptions of real-life BDSM and sadistic torture.

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